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Find their 2024: As the war divided Ukrainians into groups with different values

The war staged new challenges to every Ukrainian, and everyone answered in its own way. As a result, new communities that were not previously formed - and PRA Darya Manzharov describes them and their features. I planned to share the ideas of the book about the art of the art of community, but the reality of how to come through that classics . . . "Pain" that lead us to the community: 1. By classics: we become more lonely. There is no one to talk about complex topics.

Loneliness has become not only a psychological but also a social problem. Every fifth American confesses that lonely. Ukraine 2024: Now this is the problem of humanity number one. OK, number two after the wars. And we have already had two to three communities, we "surf" in several at the same time. 2. Classics: We want to enter the circle of exceptional people. There is always some "exceptional" circle. Ukraine 2024: The importance of this factor has changed due to the following factors.

And in fact, the elites have changed. 3. Factors 2024: total uncertainty, unpredictability and associated internal fear, a sense of danger of life. We want to cover a little from this uncertainty with the help of a familiar, human. Then it seems not so scary, because at least it is clear. 1. Community participants share common values ​​appreciate what we value and despise what we despise. In Ukraine 2024, the motivation "We are friends" is almost favorite. And maybe she is our favorite.

Remember the circumstances of our true unity. 2. We identify ourselves "about the community": who am I, as an action, what do I believe in? In the environment of "our" we receive confirmation of our identity, then it seems appropriate to us, correct and strengthened. 2024: Everything works. One of the trends is a powerful polarization from geography. "For those who left", it is increasingly difficult to understand those who stayed (but could leave), and especially - vice versa.

Instead, among those who remained, as well as among those who left, there is a new impulse to unite with each other - by a new situational identity. This, by the way, also applies to those who have returned or remained in the occupied territories for various reasons. 3. We agreed on joint moral prohibitions on values: who do we protect? What is unacceptable? Who do we respect? Ukraine 2024: Loyalty to the Motherland now often conflicts with family loyalty.

How to preserve self -respect if you are not a warrior by nature? The moral dilemma of the Nevang, which suddenly became a "evidence". And if you are a warrior, how not to begin to despise those who are not enough like you? How to forgive those you will not return anymore? Where is the boundary between respect for the country and a realistic view of power? The boundary between "to become these changes" and give life to a state that will not necessarily notice it? 4.

The community gives a special insider feeling "its to its own. " In the true community, we do not need to explain ourselves. We all want to be our own, without explaining ourselves to outsiders. Another important part of understanding insiders is the "internal" understanding of each other's motives, feelings and elections - no matter how unclear or strange it seems outsiders.

Ukraine 2024: "Those who left" are drawn to each other in their "distant lands", because they do not need to explain themselves to each other. "The remaining ones," the rows are even more dense, and their choice is also obvious to them, no matter what. Mothers of veterans, families of victims, IDPs . . . A common choice becomes a common court - it is better in values, it is now one of the new values. But there are those who were able to "expand" so much to accommodate all these dichotomy.

To place the choice of such different "yours": those who chose to fight to the end, and those who chose not to leave the occupation - because nowhere; And those who have chosen not to fight, because except for his rapid death, he can promise anything to the country . . . And is it really what she needs? To place the choice of those who live themselves and enjoy life in other countries. Such a different life, such a different choice. And that's all - my people.