The role of an adult. What mistakes in education are made by parents during the war

I thought that on the one hand, they did not ask us "that's everything" for them and cannot thank us, because the possibility of contributions cannot be compared at all, and we cannot even count on this gratitude. I thought they could not appreciate what we do and perceive everything for granted and that they are not guilty that we were sacrificing something for them.

And on the other - I thought that if we do not appreciate ourselves, if our sacrifice (our parents will always be) too much, if we prove to ourselves every time we are good parents, if children have no feeling of responsibility for something family And in general, everything is easy to give - they do not have time to want something if we compensate for what has happened in life in our care - we will feel like used. And they will want to call them selfish zooms.

We can feel guilty for failing to protect the world of their carefree childhood. I repeat myself and other parents so often - we are not guilty of this war. We did and do everything we can, yes - for the sake of children. Wherever we are, whatever decisions are made. For love for them, I now teach myself to take the best piece of fruit, a flat piece of chocolate, to choose the most convenient place, to do something for myself.

Clear and even tougher to tell children: "No! So you can't! ” I notice how many parents (and I too) turn into staff for children. And this is definitely not in favor of them. Our children, even in the war, living in other people's homes and cities, remembering the sounds of explosions, even more need us - great and majestic. Because we must be even stronger. They now have more hysterics, more complex emotional manifestations.

And that means that we, adults, next to them need more strength, healthy care of ourselves (wanted to write "selfishness"), we need to invest in ourselves no less than we give children, because we need volume, so that then be those that can give. And they need to know that they are children near adults. I have returned the role of an adult in the last days. And the more I want to accuse someone of selfishness, the more I start investing in myself.